If you are trying to look 10 years younger or more, there is no shortage of information or products to help you achieve your goal. Nowadays, it seems everywhere you turn there is some new product or cosmetic procedure claiming to remove wrinkles, restore elasticity, bring back radiance… the list goes on and on.
But before you try that breakthrough product or visit that hot new medical day spa there are 3 anti aging traps you need to know about. Fall into one of these, and no matter what products you are using, you could be undermining your results without even knowing it.
Anti Aging Trap #1- No Passion for Anti Aging or Complete Acceptance of the Aging Process
“Passion for anti aging?” you say. “Of course I have passion for anti aging. Why do you think I spend hundreds of dollars on products and procedures?”
Let’s make one thing clear- passion for anti aging and looking 10 years younger has nothing to do with how many products you buy or how many visits you schedule with your plastic surgeon. Passion for anti aging starts in the brain:
For example: Every morning when I wake up, the first thing on my mind is anti aging. I am constantly researching, studying, putting test ideas into practice to stay and feel younger and more vibrant. I thoroughly enjoy it and a day doesn’t go by without me thinking about anti aging and trying to look 10 years younger.
Now I know everyone doesn’t or even can’t wake up with anti aging on the brain. There are kids to get off to school, jobs to go to, bills to pay; the list goes on and on.
But to really achieve any level of anti aging, you do have to have some passion for it.
Because passion for anything, whether it be looking 10 years younger, losing weight, or getting a promotion starts in the brain. The moment you set your mind to achieve something your brain immediately goes into overdrive coming up with ideas to bring this plan to fruition. Passion is the fuel which drives this process. The more passionate you are about an idea, the higher the probability that you will achieve what you desire.
Unfortunately, anti aging or trying to look 10 years younger or more quickly loses momentum. This is because many people feel there are only a few options to truly stay youthful. Once they start to age, they believe the only options they have are plastic surgery or Botox. Which brings us to the next anti aging trap:
Anti Aging trap #2- Overloading On Plastic Surgery and Cosmetic Procedures
I recently met a 48 woman who was obviously addicted to plastic surgery. Her face was smooth, taut and unlined. She had no wrinkles on her forehead, around her eyes or around her mouth. But guess what? She didn’t look ten years younger. She looked like a 48 year old woman that had a lot of work done.
Her face was mask-like, even when she smiled. You can see this look on a lot of celebrities (Courtney Cox, Nicole Kidman, Joan Rivers). Maybe that’s why some people think it is the best way to fight the aging process. People love to emulate their favorite stars.
Now I’m not against plastic surgery. Compared to only 10 years ago, plastic and cosmetic surgery has come a long way in helping people everywhere to look and feel younger. And perhaps that’s the problem. Because it has become so much more affordable it is now the quick fix instead of the last resort. Too much plastic surgery or cosmetic procedures will not make you look 10 years younger. It will however make you look strange, unnatural and like a plastic surgery junkie.
Anti Aging Trap #3 Setting the Bar Too Low
When I ask women what they really want to achieve from all the effort they put into staying youthful, more often than not most of them respond with the following:
“I want to look good for my age.”
The only way I know how to respond to this statement is “Why?”
If you truly want to look good for your age, no matter if it’s 30, 40 or 50+ then I say go for it. You could probably achieve your goal in a matter of months if you haven’t done so already. But know this:
You will never go to a college sporting event and be mistaken for a coed by 4 different students. You won’t be able to wear a mini skirt and look “age appropriate”. (Sorry to use that phrase. I actually despise it but that’s a whole other article.) You will never go for a jog and have 3 seventeen year olds on scooters ask what college you go to.
Why? Because “looking good for your age” is setting the bar way too low. Sure you look good, but only for your age. It’s the equivalent of the comment: “you throw pretty good for a girl”. You want to look good period. You want to look so good that no one can say you look good for your age because no one can tell how old you are.
I know plenty of women aged 40+ who can and have been mistaken for a college coed. Who still have the ability to pull off a mini and flip flops. And who have 17 year old boys waving to them from their motorcycles and scooters
Now that we discussed the 3 Anti Aging Traps and how easy they are to fall into, let’s talk about the good news. Look at the following quote:
“Anti Aging to us is a lifestyle. My wife and I decided a long time ago that we weren’t going to age. We were going to eat right, constantly try new things, take care of our bodies. But most importantly, we set our mind to it and I guess we’re doing all right.”-from a 52 year old man and his 46 year old wife.
This quote came from a married couple I recently met who I had guessed to be in their mid thirties. The man confessed to me that he was actually 52 years old and his wife was 46. I was pretty stunned. Being as obsessed as I am with anti aging, I can usually guess peoples’ ages pretty well. So this really threw me for a loop.
This couple looked, walked and talked like they were 35 years old. And a young 35 at that. It was truly amazing and I couldn’t stop looking at them.